You have heard the horror stories
You have seen the statistics and you have seen how friends treat marriage. You are wondering if you are making the right decision to get married. You certainly do not want to end up like so many of your friends, divorced, lonely and alone.
His big arms
Yet marriage is not all doom and gloom. There are many more success stories than what hits the news. They all have their little secrets for their longevity. One little secret is his big arms.
When those big, strong, powerful arms are wrapped around you, there is a sense of not being alone. You have support. When things start to go bad you have someone to turn to help you through those tough times.
You have comfort. When you are feeling sad, lose a treasured pet or even a loved one, you have someone to wrap their big arms around you and tell you that you will be okay. You can put your head on his shoulders and cry without fear knowing that those big arms will hold you safe.
Once those big arms envelope your body, you know you have love. You know you are not alone. You have someone special that will love you the way you are. You can rest knowing that you are special to another human being.
The security of marriage
That is the unique thing about marriage. Despite all the bad stories you have heard, marriage is still special. It offers what no other relationship can. Sure you can have the romance, the romantic interludes, the fun outside of marriage, but those relationships pale beside a good marriage.
It provides you with a security that no other relationship can match. You have your own special someone who is not going away. That special someone is yours and yours alone. No one can have that same security with your special someone.
The advantage of marriage
When you listen to the bad stories about marriage, the fights, the anger and the trials, you are only hearing one side of the story. The other side of the story is much better. Yes you will fight because that is two people learning how to become one with each other.
Yes, there will be anger but that is because two people are learning how to forgive each other. There will be trials because life is not always fair and problems arise in marriages. But that only helps two people learn how to work together as a single unit.
Marriage is far more than the bad stories. It is about how two people who love each other work together to deepen that love and make it stronger than anything the world can throw its way.
Marriage is not for the weak
Far too many people have a romanticized view of marriage. These are the ones that fail and let their love for each other erode away. They waste that golden opportunity to have the best thing in life.
Marriage is for the strong. It is for those who are willing to become vulnerable with another person and still be brave enough to say I love you. Marriage is not for those who want to play a game. It is for those who want everlasting love.